Proverbs 4:23 "Be careful how you think. Your life is shaped by your thoughts."
The above biblical passage indirectly tells us that everything starts in the mind. That the mind is a very powerful tool of changing the way we feel about something and eventually making us do the things we never thought we could. Famous evangelist Pastor Rick Warren put it this way: "You aren't what you think you are. But what you think, you are."
Our thoughts, ideologies or way of thinking do not just guide the direction of our personal lives...our thoughts are our life. Whateverchange we want to achieve in our lives, start with our mind.
We must remember the ideal chain of events we must take, its TFA. TFA is an accronym I invented, it stands for Think - Feel - Act. Our thinking will change the way we feel, and such feeling will move us to do the act. For example in anger, its difficult for men to control anger towards someone. Why? because they are focusing on the feeling right away. If they will just change the way they think regarding that hated someone, for sure theyre feelings will change as well and they will act kindness instead of its opposite. Romans 12:2 says "Be transformed by the renewing of your mind."
I always hated the statement "I fell in love" or "I have fallen in love," it is as if loving someone is just an accident. The truth is people love not because they fell to the feeling of it, its a choice of the individual to love another person. It is not as if you are tripped while walking on rocky road. The same is true in "I have fallen out of love." For couples who have "fallen" out of love with zero reason, change the way you think, remember the good times of being together. Love is a choice. Now, will you choose to love the same person or not and love someone else? Its for you to decide.
If you think of love then you will feel love and eventually youll act love. The method is as simple as that.
In this world where nobody is perfect, we must learn to get along with our fellow unperfect beings. You will never like everything on a person, you must bear with his or her flaws. This is only a temporary world, our God is not yet finished molding us that is why we are not yet perfect.
Love people not because you like loving them. If you ask God to teach you to love, don't expect God to send you a lovable being. You'll never learn the true meaning of love if loving is easy. Instead, He will send you an unperfect one. Its like a gym training for perfection. Still everything starts with the mind. TFL, Think, Feel and the Act.
Let us not all be slaves of our feelings. Our minds have the power to control it.
Often recalcitrant, but always principled.